Talking about testing shouldn’t kill the vibe
People sometimes believe that bringing up a topic like getting tested can ruin the moment. In reality, it’s often the opposite. It reassures your partner and can even increase desire. But why?
Because it shows respect, maturity, and that you care about yourself and your partner. It creates a safe space for pleasure to blossom in a stress-free environment.
Tip #1
Check to see if your test results are up to date
Getting test results is great. Up-to-date test results? Even better!
If your sexual partner has had sex since their last test, it’s worth discussing because their last test results are no longer up to date. The key words here are transparency and communication!
Tip #2
0% judgement, 100% honesty
f the person has never been tested or if their test results aren’t no longer relevant, no need to roll your eyes. They’re just being honest.
From there, you can decide together whether to continue using protection (hi, condoms!) or wait until the test results come back. Zero stress!
Tip #3
Wait patiently for results
If your test results need updating, make an appointment ASAP and continue to use protection until you have results that confirm it’s safe to stop using condoms, if that’s what you want.
STBBIs frequently present without symptoms, which means you can have an STBBI and pass it along without knowing it. Testing is THE only way to find out if you’re positive for an STBBI.
Tip #4
Turn it into a date!
Do it as a pair! Getting tested together isn’t a lack of trust. It’s a sign of maturity, love, and respect—for yourself and for your partner.
Why not make a date of it? Get tested together and then grab a coffee, get an ice cream, or watch a movie together.
Turn this not-so-glam activity into an act of caring, trust, and accountability.
